"If the Buddha Dated: A Handbook for Finding Love on a Spiritual Path" by Charlotte Kasl was given to me by a house-maid of a luxurious Southampton villa, who was inspired by Buddhism and thought I would like it. I do like it very much! I am grateful for receiving this gift from her.
Being on a spiritual path, for me, means being honest with myself and comitted to be as good as I can. To be "fully human being," as Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche, my spiritual teacher, would say. So it is very interesting to explore this notion in two! How to be kind to myself by finding a partner who can be kind to himself (or herself), and how to cultivate a relationship that is deeply honest and kind.
To synchronize with our partner, it helps us if we are synchronize our own body and mind. To be authentic with our lover, we need to search for that authenticity within ourselves. And that means being brave to handle the ugly parts as well as to acknowledge the beautiful parts.
It also helps, as the book suggests and gives exercises, to know ourselves, and our values. What do we actually want, or need from a partner? What would we like to give? The clearer this is, the easier it is to see if it's a match between two people.
Ultimately, the spiritual relationship is deep, willing to cope with whatever arises, combines mind and body of the two lovers, and brings out the best of both.
What do you think or feel about this subject?
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